For those of you who have been along on the online dating ride with me, this shouldn’t come as a big surprise – but I seriously do give up on it. I was a woman on the verge and then the tipping point came tonight during a 5 minute date. Yep, 5 minutes. Met the guy at a restaurant. Had a drink while we waited for a table and a couple minutes into it, after looking at his iPhone every two second, he announced that we didn’t have any chemistry and that he didn’t see the point of having more than a drink together.
Seriously?! Can you really tell how much chemistry you have with someone in that short amount of time?! I know I’m no super model, but I didn’t think I was instantly revolting or anything ….
So, it’s easy to say “his loss” and move on, but I feel so disheartened lately. So much so that I quit Match last week. I’d much rather spend free time with friends, family and my kids. Much more nurturing for the spirit vs. this constant tear it down, build it back up revolving door of dating in your 40s.
I seriously am not asking for much, I swear! Someone with a great sense of humor. Someone who can actually ask you about your day instead of bitching about theirs the whole time. Someone who isn’t bitter or jaded. Someone more glass full than glass empty. Someone who wants to be with me. There are, of course, a few other specifics not worth getting into right now – but those are the basics that I keep hitting a brick wall with lately.
This all leads me to wonder if it’s even possible to find “the one” at this point in my life. Am I being too optimistic? Am I too jaded? Possible. I in part blame my mom for raising me watching MGM musicals where every relationship problem can be wrapped up in 90 minutes with a show-stopping song. Sigh.
So I drown my sorrows in All About Eve, Cadbury’s chocolate and supportive calls and texts from girlfriends. (Thank you Jane, Heather and Jenn!) And for some reason I’m oddly hopeful for my last official Match.com date tomorrow night. Guess you can’t really keep a romantic optimist down! (Just don’t be surprised if future posts have nothing to do with my love life!)
